Periods & Relationships: How To Handle Mood Swings

What Should My Partner Know About My Cycle?

Knowledge is the first step to understanding; Menstruation is more than just physical symptoms; it involves a series of hormonal changes that influence mental health, mood, energy, and sleep.

1. Mood Swings
   The rise and fall of different hormones can result in irritation or sadness.
2. Physical Discomfort
   Cramps, being bloated, and fatigue are common symptoms that can make anyone feel on edge.
3. Mental Strain
   Emotional changes during menstruation can increase sensitivity, anxiety, or even short tempers.
   
   

Understanding the root cause can make these moments easier for both partners to navigate.

Why Do I Always Fight With My Partner During My Period?

Given the extent of discomfort menstruators are in, it is evident that periods can be emotionally taxing too. You may find yourself fighting with those around you more often thus putting additional strains on relationships. They may happen more frequently during menstruation because of:

1. Miscommunication
   Hormonal changes can make it difficult to articulate emotions calmly.
2. Misinterpretation
   Partners may misread mood swings as frustration directed towards them.
3. Stress Amplification
   Physical discomfort can make minor annoyances feel major.
   
   

How To Handle Emotional Changes During Menstruation

Managing emotional changes requires both personal awareness and your partner’s support. Here’s how:

For You

1. Self-Care Rituals
   Make time for activities that calm and centre you, such as yoga, journaling, or taking a warm bath.
2. Recognise Triggers
   Understanding your cycle can help you anticipate emotional peaks and address them proactively.
   
   

For Your Partner

1. Empathy First
   Simply acknowledging your menstruating partner’s feelings can make them feel more understood and less alone.
2. Practical Support
   Small gestures like making tea, running errands, or offering a heating pad can speak volumes.
3. Avoid Judgement
   Periods are temporary, but your responses during this time will leave a lasting impact.
   
   

Communication In Relationships During Periods

A lack of communication can increase tension during menstruation. Partners who don’t understand the impact of hormonal changes might unintentionally minimise or dismiss the experience, leading to resentment.

Tips For Better Communication

1. Normalise Period Talk
   Share details about your cycle and how it affects you emotionally and physically.
2. Use ‘I’ Statements
   Instead of saying, “You don’t understand,” say, “I feel unsupported when my feelings aren’t acknowledged.”
3. Reassure Your partner
   Use statements like, “I’m feeling overwhelmed right now because of my period; it’s not about you.” This can prevent misunderstandings.
4. Check In Regularly
   Ask each other questions like:
   
   • “How can I support you?”
   • “Are you feeling okay?”
     
     

How Can I Help My Partner During Periods?

If you’re looking for a way to support your menstruating partner here are a few things that make a difference and strengthen relationships-

1. Listen Actively
   Sometimes, just listening without offering solutions is enough.
2. Offer Practical Help
   Whether it’s cooking a meal, fetching snacks, or tidying up, these gestures show you care.
3. Learn Together
   Educate yourself about the menstrual cycle to better understand your partner’s experience.
4. Explore Intimacy
   While the topic of sex during periods might feel taboo, it’s essential to have an open conversation about it. Intimacy can release endorphins (natural mood boosters) which can ease cramps and lift spirits. The key is mutual consent and clear communication about comfort levels.
   
   

Small Acts Of Kindness, Big Impacts On Relationships

Periods may be a monthly challenge, but they don’t have to strain your relationship. With the right communication, empathy, and understanding of emotional and hormonal changes, you and your partner can tackle this together. Remember, a little kindness and openness can go a long way in building a strong, supportive bond—even during “that time of the month”.